Hey there! How have you been?
It has been a very productive week, so I thought that it’s time for a new self-reflection post.
This is for those who are having regrets from the mistakes they have made in the past. Those who have no idea where they’re heading. Those who feel abandoned and neglected. Those who want to give up on themselves. I really hope this blog enlightens you.
If I was given the chance to travel back in time and talk to my younger self, here are the 5 THINGS I WOULD TELL HER:
1. DON’T BE AFRAID TO FALL IN LOVE.
I’ve loved so many people in my entire lifetime, and I’ve been in too many relationships at a very young age.
But if you ask me if I regret any of them, my answer is NO. I don’t.
In fact, if I will be given the chance to go back and correct my mistakes, I wouldn’t.
Yes, there will be plenty of moments that will get your heart broken.
But in a few months or years, you will realize that everything you went through only made you stronger and wiser.
What they do to you doesn’t define who you are. It defines them.
So continue loving people unconditionally. Never stop believing in love. Never stop giving your all.
NEVER let pain take yourself away from you.
2. CHASE YOUR DREAMS. AND I REALLY MEAN, “CHASE THEM!”
Before I went to college, I always knew that it wasn’t for me.
I had so many plans for myself. So many ambitions that only I can see.
But because of social pressure, I forced myself into school, even when I knew that I will just be wasting my time.
6 years after, I decided to just drop it and do what I really wanted to do.
That is 6 years that I can’t get back.
And if 6 years ago I had the courage to fight for my dreams, I wouldn’t be starting from scratch right now.
Time is the most precious thing in the world. Make sure you make every second count.
And if you really are sure about what you’re doing, trust yourself, and let your success and failures lead the way.
Don’t compete with other people. It’s not a race. You can always go back to school whenever you want to. It can wait.
3. YOUR PARENTS ONLY WANT WHAT’S BEST FOR YOU.
True, parents will be parents.
They can be the most annoying people in the world.
They can be strict. They can be toxic.
And every once in awhile, you will feel that they are hindering you from growing.
But I tell you this, if you never fought with your parents, then they’re not doing a good job as parents.
Even right now that I’m older and wiser, the fights become longer and the hate becomes stronger.
But understand that everything they do, they do it for you.
You can hate them, curse them, rant about them all you want. But no person can ever love you as much as your parents do.
So learn to be more patient with them. Before they became parents, they were humans too.
They make mistakes just like you. They just don’t want you to go through what they went through.
4. YOU DON’T NEED TOO MANY FRIENDS. YOU JUST NEED REAL ONES.
I’ve lived most of my younger years trying to prove myself to people just so they would let me be their friend.
I say SCREW THEM.
You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone, especially if you’re looking for a friend.
A true friend is someone who will be there with you no matter the consequences.
They’re not just there for the good times. They will be with you even in the darkest moments of your life.
You don’t need to search for them. They’ll come to you in God’s perfect timing. They’re your real soulmates.
I know you’re having a hard time right now due to peer pressure, but I tell you this. BE PATIENT AND WAIT.
A few years from now, maybe when you reach your fourth year in high school, you will know what real friendship is.
And once you meet them, you’ll realize that they were always there from the very start. God just wanted every timing to be perfect.
They’re going to stick with you until the very end. Whether you like it or not.
And all the burdens in the world will suddenly feel lighter.
That’s how you know. That God made those angels especially for you.
5. IT’S OKAY TO FEEL LOST.
It’s okay to not know what you want.
It’s okay to not know where you’re heading.
It’s okay to feel impatient, and unworthy, and unappreciated.
You will fall in love and think he’s the one when he’s not.
You will have friends that will abandon you when it gets hard.
Eventually, your family will stop supporting you from doing what you love.
It’s okay to cry and shout and feel everything all at once.
It’s okay to doubt God when your life’s falling apart.
But always remember to get back on your feet and finish the marathon.
There will be people in the bleachers cheering you on.
Just because you couldn’t see or hear them doesn’t mean they’re not there.
Most importantly, you got your own back.
When all else fails, the only thing that will keep you going is YOU.
Even when your faith is swerving, God trusts that you will always find yourself back.
And He will be at the finish line waiting for you with His arms wide open.
Remember… IT’S OKAY.
What about you? If you can talk to your younger self, what is the best advice you could give? Leave your answers down below!